THE MEANING OF A "BRIDEZILLA" AND HOW TO COPE WITH ONE IN YOUR LIFE

THE MEANING OF BRIDZILLA:

We all hear the term, but do you know what it means? It is a generic term used for a Bride that stems from a Bride and Godzilla. All of a sudden this sweet woman turns into this unpleasant perfectionist Bride who will not compromise for her big day. She rather leave her family, friends, groom and even bridal vendors aggravated just to get her way. For some reason, all of a sudden she becomes an obsessed Bride that will say and do anything to make sure nothing gets in her way on her quest for the perfect wedding!

IS IT OKAY?

There is this show out there on WETV called "Bridezilla". I was watching it and was really stunned how all of a sudden a woman goes from being so calm to completely flipping into this crazy "Godzilla" when something does not go her way. Maybe they over react because it is TV but then again this really does go on! If your a Bride reading this, Do you honestly believe this reaction to people that are trying to help you is okay?! Always take into account if this was happening to you, would you like it? Learn to calm down, take a few breaths and know that the end result will be exactly what you wished for! Everyone wants you to be happy and would like it to be stress-free for them as well. It is not okay to treat others poorly.

WHY DOES THIS OCCUR?

I am also sure if you landed on this page, it's because you are dealing with one and might be on the verge to actually disowning your friend or loved one by backing out of their wedding. Please don't. Know it is a short time before it will all be over and done with. I do not know why exactly this occurs but I believe it may stem down to Narcissism. If you do not know what that term means, I will let you know. There are many different forms of Narcissim. There is personality disorder, primary, secondary, relationships and self- worth, gender, sexual, medical and cultural. I think everyone should really read up on it as it is very interesting to learn in general why people may act the way they do. There is always a reason for everything. Whether you want to admit to it or not then that is another story. It can be good or bad trait to have. I think the Bridezilla may fall into the personality disorder where a person is self-centered in their ways. It is also known as "the God Complex" which can then be considered the "GODZILLA" as well!

HOW TO COPE WITH ONE?

I want to help you cope with dealing with a Bridezilla. First, I know it may be hard to do everything a Bride requests. When you are asked to be a Bridesmaid, it is an honor however if you know you can not financially afford to be one, please do let the Bride-to-be know in advance! Just be nice about it, say you really appreciate being considered to be apart of a once in a lifetime moment in her life and are extremly happy to see her get married but you do not believe you are capable at this time to part take in the Bridesmaid role. You can add that you would still love to give a extra helping hand during the whole process to ensure it goes nice and smoothly. If she is a good friend or loved one, she would understand and respect your decision. There are many costs when you agree to be apart of a wedding. There is the bridal shower, the bachlorette, the outfits to attend all the functions including the engagement party, rehearsal dinner and then of coarse the larger expenses with Bridesmaid dress, shoes, hair, nails, makeup and also the final wedding gift. There is a high chance you are giving money to items that you may never use again as it is the Brides wedding not yours. What she says goes!. I do not want to scare you off. Just want you to know what you are signing up for. I think there would be less problems if you just go with the flow and compromise as one day you will have your turn in the spotlight.

STEPS TO TAKE:

What can be done to ease your mind? Well for starters, write everything down and start a budget for yourself so you do not stress about the costs. When the bride asks you for a favor, be straight forward and not agree to everything as their are many people that can still help if you can't. Don't feel like all the weight is on your shoulders. Even though costs is very concerning, do try treating yourself once in a while. Whether its just relaxing with a glass of wine in front of the TV then do it! You deserve your alone time and to clear your mind. Go get your nails or hair done, get yourself to a gym and run those worries away or unwind with a good book and bowl of ice cream! What ever makes you happy is the goal. Have some Advil stored for those headaches. If you know something is not going to go right, try to fix it before the Bride see's it. It will save alot of screaming matches. If you know something may look better then what the Bride has chosen, do suggest in a nice way your thoughts. Say something along the lines, "ya know that looks beautiful..kinda something I saw the other day. I wanted to show you for kicks".There is always a more pleasant way to verbalize your thought without falling into the complaining Bridesmaid role either. The Bride can be difficult but so can a Bridesmaid. There is always one in the group. Don't be titled "that one".

END RESULT:

At the end of the planning process, it will all pay off. Your going to have a awesome memorable day with your girls that will be cherished for a lifetime and that is what you always have to remember!

Wishing you the best of luck and happiness during your special wedding experience! Do you have a Bridezilla in your life? Tell us what may be bothering you. We appreciate feedback and in return will give advice.